This is not research, so relax, sit back and read thoughtfully line after line to the end…
It is quite not uncommon to see brothers in the valley, and if you like call it mountain, of decision of a marriage partner, flock around too many sisters to the intent of registering their presence as potential suitors in their height of seriousness and end up confusing themselves.
Some with the mindset of analyzing and making ‘wise informed decision’ and some with the pure intent of friendship. With this relationship getting so deep and close, yet they say they are friends.
Such closeness and depth of care showered, if left to grow send signals to ladies folk, they get fond of you and they start feeling about you in a way you might not have intended earlier. Undue closeness to the opposite sex without a foundational definition is unhealthy emotionally. The end product is disaster alongside heartbreak!
It is not easy for ladies to get emotionally committed whole heartedly, especially responsible girls, but when they do, they do it to a fault and can go all out for the one their hearts beat for.
Sir, can you get serious for the sake of your future and stop this gambling around sisters?
There is no problem if you feel the same way about her, make your intentions known, don’t assume, assumption is too costly a risk. Don’t get her emotionally committed and then tell her story that touches the heart. It’ll break her seriously if you are interested in someone else, spirituality or no spirituality!
Don’t feel backstabbed if she later said you cheated on her later, you were enjoying her emotional investment on you, gave her an impression of hope and now she’s insecure your heart is somewhere else.
Some times after now, she tells you she wants to consider the proposal of another man, and you start feeling like a cheated bull, saying she’s an ungrateful fellow.
Stop all this random sampling for qualitative analysis at once and let all friendships be defined. Sampling ladies upandan, and for those sampling brothers too, great and complete better halves are not gotten this way. That’s not a fair combination. In issues like this, like poles attract in contrast to metaphysics.
Avoid undue closeness if there is nothing defined happening over a period of time. Stop toiling with your feelings friends, respect them! We are as much emotional as we are spiritual.
Ladies and guys alike, learn to ask questions: questions on motives and intentions when getting unduly intimate, this relationship is graduating beyond what it used to be and you know this!
Sweetheart, your heart is too precious a sample to be experimented with, stop trial and error, cherish your feelings and don’t trade with them. And this is actually not to say to begin to suspect any and every well-meaning brother extending a hand of friendship to you embarrassing them about commitments. Wisdom is needed in handling relationships. Shalom!
©Clement Aanuoluwapo
√Setting the Pace√
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